I've heard it say that everyone should allow any kind of tragedy at least eight years to stabilize itself into acceptance. In other words your life will feel normal again or will have adjusted to the present state of living. I will try to list some of these things that I assume would cause pain or that have me personally. Not all but some of these are personal or necessarily in this order.
Being lied to
Near death experiences.
Boarding house Life
"They"say to talk about how the hurt is affecting you both physically and mentally. Then, "they" say, ask yourselves why you react this way and/or that way and it goes on and on tell the prognosis is blamed on something else or one.( which to me really doesn't fix it at all.)